Actual vs. Ideal Communication

What percentage of your communication with your children is "actual" (our normal pattern of communication) compared to the percentage which is "ideal" (according to God's standard)? 

Actual = focus is on communicating rules, correction, discipline

Ideal = all of the above + Rebuke, entreaty, encouragement, teaching, warning, instruction, and prayer.

Key passages: Deut. 6:7-13, 1 Cor. 13:4-7, Eph. 4:29